Scooba's X-Mas

Master Dyck · Post by **Master Dyck** » Sat Dec 29, 2007 11:20 pm

Scooba, let me tell you a story that might help you.

Years ago my sister met this guy. He was divorced with 3 kids, she with 5. She fell in love with this guy but he wasn't ready. Her love for him pushed him away at first, enough to cause him to go out and marry the first girl he found. But my sister didn't give up on him because she felt that God was telling her that he was meant for her. His marriage lasted only a couple of months. She stood by him through it all. Now they have been happily married for two years.

Scooba, You keep doing the right thing by her and your kids. And, no matter who she's with or what their relationship is, continue to let her and the kids know that you love them with all your heart. She will eventually come around and see that the best man for her is the father of her children. We as your disc golf family will all be praying for you continuously to see you through this growing time. You will succeed, if you keep on the straight and narrow.

We are all here to help you in any way we can so just keep posting your progress and we will carry you to the end.

disclizard · Post by **disclizard** » Sun Dec 30, 2007 12:20 am

Scooba, let me tell you a story that might help you.

Years ago my sister met this guy. He was divorced with 3 kids, she with 5. She fell in love with this guy but he wasn't ready. Her love for him pushed him away at first, enough to cause him to go out and marry the first girl he found. But my sister didn't give up on him because she felt that God was telling her that he was meant for her. His marriage lasted only a couple of months. She stood by him through it all. Now they have been happily married for two years.

Scooba, You keep doing the right thing by her and your kids. And, no matter who she's with or what their relationship is, continue to let her and the kids know that you love them with all your heart. She will eventually come around and see that the best man for her is the father of her children. We as your disc golf family will all be praying for you continuously to see you through this growing time. You will succeed, if you keep on the straight and narrow.

We are all here to help you in any way we can so just keep posting your progress and we will carry you to the end.

I'm not so sure that is the right advice . Yes do show your love for the kids and do be as kind and loving as you can be to your wife or ex. But don't forever hang on. At some time the best thing is to let go. Let god figure it out for you but put all trust in him. You may just find he had some one else in mind for you some one who brings out the best in you. I had to go through two very horrible Marriages before I found my true soul mate. If I wouldn't have finally given up in my second wife and let her go I would not have met Sandy. I was dearly , madly and deeply in love with the ex . So bad that when she left I could let her go. I became even more obsessed with her and I eventually drove her to hate me be cause I told her I loved her when she didn't love me.

Be her friend and Be there for her when you can. But also learn to let her go and just keep working on you. If she comes around well take your time with that too. Don't rush this , any part of this. Losing some one is like a part of you and your heart died you need time to morn that. Just like any addiction ,and love is an addiction, you need to step back and fix the wrongs in you before even think about letting some one else into, or back into, your life .
So best advise is do the best you can for your kids, love them and be real with them. Pray for them and put your life in gods hands let him decide whats best for you . he knows.

disc golf superhero · Post by **disc golf superhero** » Mon Dec 31, 2007 8:28 pm

B.S. always says it best.
http://youtube.com/watch?v=2LGNG0VY8_k

Let go, learn, grow, keep an open mind. Someday down the road when your with someone new and your X and her young man have parted (chances are high) you'll have two women fighting over you. You'll have a chick on each arm and Mr Smith will extend true pimp status.

Then again B.S. always says it best.
http://youtube.com/watch?v=SRwwYWlbP2U

$c0oBa · Post by **$c0oBa** » Sat Jan 05, 2008 8:08 pm

I'm still hanging in there, but she is trying to get under my skin as much as possible. Any time I try to talk to her she tries to push buttons. The other day I went to meet up with her at my kids school and HE was with her, she gets out of the van and and rudely says WHAT! and I told her I just want to talk to her about helping me sort through our stuff at the house and she starts pushing buttons, and I told her never mind I was leaving and since her boyfriend was in the van waiting, she then started sugar coating me probably scared I was going to whup her little boy arse, I wouldn't risk a restrain order, or cause any more problems than we already have. So I walked with her to pick up the kiddos and she was telling me that she will be there tommorrow to help out, how stupid, I believed her

So we get back to the Van and she opens the sliding door and I shouldn't have but I said to him Thanks for showing me the same respect I had shown your family, and he was shaking his head yeah real cocky, he's probably lucky I can control my anger now otherwise I would have probably done something stupid, Must keep this under control.

zollmanator · Post by **zollmanator** » Sun Jan 06, 2008 6:31 pm

No matter how bad you want to kick his ass, dont do it. At the time of the wippin it feels oh so good, but you will be the only one paying for it in the long run. Self control man.